Is the 'provider mindset' the norm?
32M here, back into the dating scene recently and have been trying out apps. I can’t help but noticed that there are a lot of profiles having this statement along the lines of “looking for provider mindset man. Provider man are charming etc. In fact i have matches that straight up ask if i drive and based their decision on that. I respect their preferences, but i am just curious if that’s the norm now? Just to be clear- i am doing okay financially - have a good job and can take care of myself. I also always pay for the first date. I do agree that provider man is attractive, and no doubt i would give my best to my other half next time (when i find her) But when first thing they ask is if you drive, it feels really transactional.
