32M here, back into the dating scene recently and have been trying out apps.
I can’t help but noticed that there are a lot of profiles having this statement along the lines of “looking for provider mindset man. Provider man are charming etc.
In fact i have matches that straight up ask if i drive and based their decision on that.
I respect their preferences, but i am just curious if that’s the norm now?
Just to be clear- i am doing okay financially - have a good job and can take care of myself. I also always pay for the first date.
I do agree that provider man is attractive, and no doubt i would give my best to my other half next time (when i find her)
But when first thing they ask is if you drive, it feels really transactional.
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Just ended things with a date a couple days ago due to this. The men are expected to be the provider, and it seems like a relationship no longer takes 2 hands to clap. But im giving the benefit of doubt that these women only appear in dating apps due to how women are the ones receiving all the likes and can compare across all their options vs guys who have to scrap by.
Haha, I think your profile pics and bio gives an impression you are rich. So, these women are attracted to your profile, hoping you can be their "chauffeur".
But, just be honest and don't do anything crazy like renting a car just for dates you'll only waste your hard-earned money.
These women are better off using sugar-dating apps, like Match Catch, to find sugar daddies.
Oh yes, I’ve been meeting dates with the exact same mindset. Although I don’t mind spending money on dates, some of them don’t even bother to pay for a coffee or a grab ride. It doesn’t have to be equal but atleast offer to pay for something small and show some efforts. One girl straight away asked to buy her gifts to which I denied, she exclaimed saying her past bf bought her gifts, took her on vacations and paid her monthly only to end up dumping him cuz he was too toxic. I asked her if he was soo perfect why did you end up dumping him and she didn’t have a reply for it. She also wanted an access card to my condos pool for her to access it when I’m not there at home, I kinda saw a pattern where things were going in a direction where I felt being used. Had to unfortunately cut it off.
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