Dating is so draining

Im in my early twenties, that weird awkward stage whereby I graduated and I’m starting out my career, building something for myself. But whenever i go out on dates with other guys they get so shocked like wow you’re only starting out your job? And mind you they are also in their early twenties. I feel like im in a rat race while dating, to see who’s more accomplished lol. They are so much more interested in my job, how much i earn, what my family does etc nothing is about us. I dont know if it’s just me thats going through this but it is absolutely draining when all they want to know is what i can bring to the table. And after all this even if it goes ‘well’ nothing is exclusive, just see how things go, play it by ear. Convo dies down. I’ve never been in such situations before like previously in uni it felt more relaxed, you have that intuition that you both like each other and mutually take things to the next level. But in this working-dating world is god awful i cant tell who is genuine and who isn’t.